Has anyone else ever noticed how mean men can be to each other? I would never think of insulting my girl friends to their faces by making comments about their appearance or ways they act or things they do. NEVER. Any girl who did would quickly find herself rather friendless and alone. Yet men do it constantly and with complete impugnity.
Case in point... I have a guy friend I'll call ummmm... "Gerald" (a pseudonym to protect the guilty) and he has a friend named "Hank" (same reason). I met Hank through Gerald a few years ago and became friends of both. And for the record let me state that both are in their 40s, well educated, professional, upper management, upper middle class men - not two trash-talking grease monkeys. A large portion of our conversations with each other happen either through emails, instant messages or text messages as Gerald no longer lives in the same state as Hank and I do. Gerald will be talking to me and mention Hank and say something really mean like "Has Hank started a diet yet? He displaced most of the water last time he came over to my house for a pool party." And Hank will fire back "Yeah well you're a drunk couch potato with a laptop, if I was your wife I wouldn't want to sleep with you either." These are fairly minor exchanges of insults between them compared to some I've been witness to.
So I thought, maybe its just those two guys... BUT NO! Observe any two guy friends, they call each other fat, bald, ugly, dirty, lazy, deadbeats, slackers, ...and those are the compliments! I personally can't think of any females I know who have that type of relationship with another female. Every once in a while teasing about something minor, sure, but never ever ever appearance, weight, attractiveness etc. I wonder if that is a reflection of women's self esteem that couldn't handle insults even in jest or are women just nicer? I somehow doubt that....! Anyone?
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Um, is this a joke, or do I just know some bitchy women? Although I agree that women rarely do it to another woman's face. It's all behind the back. Like I said, maybe I just know some bitchy women, but I've heard lots and lots of woman-woman insults (even already this morning at work! And it's not even 9 am)
ReplyDeleteAhh but thats my point, women do it behind the back but not straight to each others faces and when they do so, they fully intend to be hurtful. Men do it to each others faces but its not taken in a hurtful manner. If I said to you "Man Michelle! Your hair is so gross today, what did you do? Run it through a blender?" You would be upset, you wouldn't think my message to you was "I love you and you're my best friend!" But guys do!
ReplyDeleteBTW, yes I think you DO know a lot of bitchy women! lol
ReplyDeleteLol, Mindy! Well YOU look like you got dressed in the dark in your damn grandma's clothes! (That would mean "You are the coolest, most fabulousest chick in the world" in Boy)
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