Mr. Forgettable

Lest anyone reading my blog thinks I only have strange or bizarre dates, I do have the occasional normal date where I go out with a man who acts like a gentleman, where we have nice conversation, decent chemistry, a good meal etc and everything is grand. But those aren’t nearly so interesting to write or hear about as the wild, crazy, or just plain bizarre ones. To that end….


…this one certainly fits in the “strange” dates category. Be sure to speak up and share your own bizarre dating experiences with me so that I don’t feel like all the crazy men are out there with homing devices pointing towards me!

A few days ago I was contacted on an online dating site by a guy whom I’ve seen on dating sites before. We had a couple short email exchanges and he hinted at meeting up but finally today he instant messaged me, and we had a longer, real time, conversation online. Shortly into our dialogue, he mentioned that he used to be a recruiter, but because of the market had gotten out of the field. I replied that I currently work for a recruiting firm and he said he knew, that he actually knew who I was, had spoken to me a couple of times on the phone and had even come into the office that I work at and met me.

You can’t say these kinds of things to a girl online and not expect her to be a bit shocked. I’ve lamented the smallness of the “world of Orlando” before in this very blog but this is a bit extreme, don’t you think?

Sure enough, he knew my last name, knew what I did for a living, knew where my desk is in the building, knew approximately how long I have been working there, etc. Then he promptly invited me out on a date. He said he thought I was cute then, but didn’t feel like he could ask me out at the same time he was applying for a job with my company. (At least he had some sense, right?)

I agreed to meet him for a drink at a local bar, we met, and I have no recollection of having ever met him before. Its not that I doubt it happened, I’m sure it did or he wouldn’t know all those things about me, in fact I even remember his resume. But I don’t remember him in person at all. I remember other people who came in and interviewed, but I have zero recollection of him.

I guess my lack of recall should have told me something…The date didn’t go very well. It wasn’t bad by any means but there was no chemistry, no attraction, and although we chatted easily and made each other laugh, we had no rapport. The date was completely forgettable. In a year or two he will probably be able to contact me again and I won’t remember that I ever went out with him before…